Saturday, April 26, 2008

Overwhelming news

As most of you in the Vietnam adoption community know...what we have all been worried about seems to have occured....

"On April 25, the Government of Vietnam announced that it will allow adoption to be completed in cases where prospective adoptive parents have been matched with a child and received an official referral prior to September 1, 2008. It further stated that in accordance with Vietnamese law, the DIA will suspend the acceptance of new dossiers on July 1, 2008. On September 1, 2008 any dossier that has not received a referral will be closed and returned to the Adoption Service Provider. In view of the processing time required in Vietnam from placement to the Giving and Receiving Ceremony, an adoption process begun now cannot be completed before the current Agreement expires."

What does this mean for Janie? Well it really all depends. I am exremely blessed to have found Janie. But even so, there are no guarantees in international adoption. Hopefully the DIA will get all her documents in order quickly so I can submit my I600 soon. Then I will wait and pray that the USCIS approvals her case and I can travel to bring her home!

I am thankful to have seen my daughter's beautiful face and just pray that I have her in my arms in the near future. However, my heart is heavy for all the families still waiting to see the face of their child. My heart is heavy for all the Vietnamese orphans that will be greatly affected by this. Please join me in prayer for all the waiting families and children.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

7 months old!

Janie is 7 months old today! I pray she is getting lots of love on this special day!

Monday, April 21, 2008

Perfectly described

OK....I admit I found this on another PAP's website--but it perfectly describes how I feel while waiting to bring my child home! It perfectly describes how it feels going thru an international adoption with all the waits, delays, and rumors.......

This beautiful beach above is my destination. I feel like I’ve been driving to this beach. It’s a fair distance from my house, on a twisting and mountainous road, with frequent delays in one spot because of traffic. That doesn’t really bother me, though, because I know that when I get to the beach it’s going to be sunny and 71 degrees with just a very light wind.

Suddenly, and without warning, I come upon a barricade preventing me from getting to my destination.

It seems there’s been a landslide from the development on the mountainside. I know they’re going to remove the debris from the landslide and fix the road eventually, but I don’t know when that will occur. Today? Tomorrow? In 30 more days? In 30 more working days? What’s a “working” day? I’m angry, frustrated and confused, wondering why didn’t the people responsible for this foresee this problem. Why isn’t someone doing something to fix this problem? Don’t I pay a bizillion dollars in taxes to have people to take care of this? Can’t additional resources be found to fix this?

All the while, traffic behind me is piling up. Car after car now waiting in line, the other drivers wanting to get to the beach, many of them honking their horns and yelling, making me want even more to get to the beach so I can experience the peace that I’ve been anticipating. Even more upsetting, periodically I see cars on the other side of the barricade, creating even more confusion. How in the world did they get there? Weren’t they behind me just a minute ago?

Out of all the frustration and confusion one simple thought comes through clearly.....

Sunday, April 20, 2008


It seems like it has been a while since my agency received any new referrals! But it happened! 3 beautiful girls were referred to waiting families last week. I am so happy for them! I know exactly how they felt when they got that call and saw the picture! I wish each of them fast travel.

No word on anything updated with me yet. Janie is still waiting for me-and I'm waiting for her. I guess her province, orphange, and DIA is still gathering her paperwork so I can file my I600 and then I can wait some more for travel permission.

USCIS or DOS has not released any official information on new DNA procedures. We are all still just speculating at this point.

For now, I just pray that my little girl is happy, healthy and getting lots of love from her nannies!

Monday, April 7, 2008

Please pray

OK...I know my last post was a little harsh and I sounded a little "crazy". I really do just want the government to do what is best for all these children in Vietnam.

I know in my heart that this is my child. I know that the people at USCIS and DOS are humans-they must love children. I trust they will be guided to do what is right.

I ask each of you to pray for Janie and all the orphans of Vietnam. Pray that they will be united with thier forever families!!!

Sunday, April 6, 2008

New worries

OK.....Can one week go by and a new Vietnam adoption hurdle not occur???

For those of you in the Vietnam adoption world-I'm sure you have heard the DNA rumors.

Nothing "official" has been announced. Lots of rumors/speculations. I have heard and read so much that I don't even know what to believe anymore.

All I know is that many babies need homes--and families are finding it harder and harder to adopt from Vietnam. I'm sure that somebody somewhere has the "reason" for this.

But all I know is this:
I have a beautiful little baby girl who is waiting for me. She was born at a hospital, given up, and is now in an orphanage waiting for a home. Come on US Government, that sounds like a true orphan to DNA testing really necessary? What if her birth mother can't be located--does that mean I can't complete her adoption?

It is frustrating. I feel like I am doing all the right things to build my family-but I feel the US is saying "nope, sorry!". Can someone please just give me an honest answer as to why these babies have to go thru so much to be adopted by US citizens.....loved, cared for, and raised by US citizens.....ultimately growing up as a legal US citizen.

While other people can just cross our borders whenever they feel like it, get government assistance, etc.?? I know I sound angry and offensive-but I am honestly tired of this!

I just want my baby home!! As adoptive parents we are doing everything the US asks and they still throw road blocks at us-why?